David Cain of Raptitude shares a story titled, The Art of Letting Others Be Right. David often feels the need to correct others when he “knows” they are wrong. He was once called argumentative by a friend and this came as a surprise to him, but upon reflection he wondered if it could be true.
Many of us feel like we have to stick up for our beliefs, and in doing so, we find ourselves sparring with our friends, family, and even strangers online. It may happen in person too, but I think it is far more common online, in forums, and on Facebook.
Part of minimalism and simple living includes simplifying your life. In many cases that means making daily tasks easier – like removing all the clutter so you have less stuff to organize; or downsizing your house so you have less to clean and maintain. In other cases it’s about removing things that don’t make you feel good.
David makes the case for letting others be right, even if you think they are wrong. Typically there is no harm in this. If you see someone on Facebook that makes a statement that you feel is wrong or misleading, there is no need for you to set them right. In most cases it will start a argument and you won’t actually convince them they are wrong.
I’d like to take his line of thought a step further and recommend that you remove those irritants completely. Do you really need to see all the things that make you feel argumentative? Your Facebook feed is likely full of things that irritate you. Guess what? You have the freedom to change that. You can either hide the posts from that person or unfriend them completely.
In the past month or so, I have been hiding posts from people that make me feel irritated. Many revolve around religion or politics that don’t agree with my views. I have my views, they have theirs. We are not likely to change our views, but I don’t have to continually subject myself to reading views that I disagree with. Unfollow.
When I’m on Facebook I like reading about people’s adventures, their family activities, interesting topics, and bits of humor. I may miss out on a little bit of that when I hide someone, but I’m willing to do that in order to remove the daily irritation. And, to fill in the holes, I have been subscribing (liking) pages that interest me.
Give it a try. Exercise your freedom of choice to unfollow the people that constantly irritate you. You may be amazed at how much more enjoyable Facebook becomes after removing the irritants.